Choosing the right outfit for the wedding is not easy. We have to take into account a lot of different details. In search of suitable outfits, inspect your closet. Surely there will be things in it that will be a successful addition to the outfit.
- 1 Basic rules of clothing selection
- 2 Outfit for a woman
- 3 outfit for a man
- 4 2018
- 5 Etymology
- 6 Participants of the wedding celebration
- 7 In Russia
- 8 Ukraine
- 9 Belarusian Wedding Belarusian
- 10 Crimean Tatar wedding
- 11 Greek wedding The
- 12 Israel
- 13 India
- 14 Wedding signs, superstitions and prejudices
- 15 Russian Wedding Rites
- 16 Marriage at Slavs At Slavs
- 17 The structure of the rite
- 18 Swatali matchmaking
- 19 “ See the place”
- 20 Announcement of the decision on the wedding
- 21 Features in northern traditions In the
- 22 Preparation for the wedding day
- 23 Dowry
- 24 Rites on the eve of the wedding day
- 25 Bath The
- 26 Bachelorette
- 27 First day of wedding
- 28 Druzhka
- 29 The arrival of the groom
- 30 Wedding Before
- 31 Arriving at the groom’s house
- 32 Wedding feast
- 33 Second wedding day On
- 34 Wedding Songs Wedding Songs
- 35 rites
- 36 Proverbs and sayings
- 37 Modernity
Basic rules of clothing selection
Be sure to pay attention to what color you choose. It is not recommended to wear outfits of black and white colors for a wedding. It’s considered a bad tone.
There is a way out – add bright accessories, and then the outfit won’t look so chambered and out of place.
It’s also worth giving up outfits that bare “charms.” Deep necklines, large necklines at skirts, guipure sweatshirts and translucent dresses are not the best choice for a wedding celebration. All views will be chained to you, and not in the very best sense of the word. Ladies should give up their trousers for the wedding. And even more so neither men nor women can wear jeans (unless the general wedding style implies it). It’s not worth spending money on excessive and catchy jewelry — it won’t help you look stylish.
Outfit for a woman
It is not necessary to buy an expensive evening dress in order to go to the wedding to friends or even friends. In the closet you can easily find an already forgotten outfit that will prove relevant and fashionable. In case there is an opportunity to go to the store, it is worth taking it. This will not mean that you will spend all the money, even the ones you planned for a gift to the young. If you think everything through properly and rationally, you will get both the perfect outfit and small costs. Choose cocktail options for knee-length dresses of delicate light flowers. First, you’ll be able to wear them after as well. Secondly, this option of the outfit will be the most optimal for the wedding — and it is not hot, and nothing will clamp down on movements. In addition, such a dress costs comparatively inexpensive.
If you once go shopping, you can use the services of online sellers. All the outfits you like will bring home and wait for a fitting. Especially since the cost of the online purchase will be less than the one from the store.
If you have a very original wardrobe detail, such as a light jacket that does not contradict wedding rules of clothing selection, try to push back from him. Pick up a suitable skirt (classic in the form of a pencil skirt will be here as possible by the way), a cute top or shirt. It is possible to diversify the image and accessories. But they have to be quality and appropriate. It is enough to put on a string of pearls or some good jewelry, a large ring and neat earrings, and the image of a romantic woman is ready. And it absolutely won’t cost expensive. An
outfit for a man
The man can also pick up an outfit for a wedding pretty budget. So, for example, you can not wear the whole suit, but only use pants from it. Alternatively, if the wedding is in summer, you can replace the trousers from the suit with the sailcloth or linen. Add a light-coloured shirt to them and the image is ready. By the way, you can even do without a tie. Men’s sets are drawn up on the same principle as women’s. You can also order missing wardrobe details via the internet, which will save. Or you can buy everything in a regular stationary store.
Svadba — rites that accompany marriage. In many nations, weddings include the ritual transfer of the bride from the parents’ house to the groom’s house, exchange of gifts, feast, etc.
With the wedding of all nations is connected with a lot of beliefs, will accept and rites. The wedding is accompanied by religious ceremonies (crowning in Christianity, nikah in Islam, etc.).
Russian wedding, swatba; ukr. vesilla; belor. vyaselle (oral. svadzba); others. – Russian and church. -glorie. svatba; bol. svatba; serbohor. svadba; sloven. svâdba; czech. svadba; czech. svatba; polsk. swadźba; n.luzh. swadźba, swaźba. Common Slavyan word. Formed from “matchmaker”, derived from the same basis as “own”. Wed his own, his own man, etc.
Sustained expressions: Coping the wedding. Play a wedding. Brace the wedding (so that neither the sun bemoaned, nor wet rain).
Participants of the wedding celebration
central figures of the wedding celebration are the bride and groom. In cultures around the world, a significant role in the wedding celebration is given to the relatives of the bride and groom. Wedding organizers invite the wedding manager, the so-called tamada or MS (master of ceremonies), who during the event controls his progress, gives the word to those wishing to say toast, monitors the order of performance of the artists, and so on. In some cases, newlyweds invite professional companies engaged in arranging holidays and celebrations to organize their celebration. In some countries, a wedding is customary with the participation of honourable witnesses.
In modern Russia, a wedding usually coincides with the state registration of a marriage. If a wedding ceremony is performed, it is possible only if there is a certificate of registration of marriage from the public authorities. At the same time, a wedding is more than just a marriage, it is also a cycle of significant rites (in a Russian wedding: a wedding train, a wedding feast, a bride’s ransom and the like). Nowadays in Russia, the wedding has absorbed the customs of many peoples, but it also has distinctive rites.
Over time, new traditions emerge. So, for example, the tradition of the first newlyweds dance appeared. The musical composition for their first dance the newlyweds either choose themselves or dance to the song suggested by the host. Many couples prepare for the dance in advance.
Modern wedding in Ukraine (Ukr. vesylla) equates to registration of marriage in the registry office. If a wedding ceremony is performed, it is possible only if there is a certificate of registration of marriage from the public authorities. Pagan, Orthodox, folk and more modern rites were mixed in the peculiarities of the wedding. Also on the structure of the wedding day put its imprint on the Soviet past. Recently, Ukrainian style weddings have become popular. At the same time, the bride and groom sometimes dress in ethnic wedding outfits, use in the decoration of the wedding elements that give a national flavor.
Belarusian Wedding Belarusian
People’s Wedding (Белор. Väselle), as a custom, has much in common with the weddings of other Slavic peoples. It all starts with matchmaking. The native grooms sent matchmakers to the bride’s parents asking them to get married. Then, one or two weeks after the matchmaking, the look followed: the parents of the bride examined the hata and household of the groom’s parents, for there after marriage the daughter will go. On the eve of the wedding, the bride hosted a bachelorette party: her girlfriends, relatives, the bride dressed up, weave her a braid, wove wreaths and sang songs. Then one of the stages of the wedding action is the posad, during which the bride and groom were put on a deja covered with a shroud (symbol of prosperity), the bride was pressed with a candle. Finally, the bride came friends of the groom, the festive lunch in the bride’s house began, the barring and the gifting of the young. After all this, the wedding train with matchmakers and friends was going to the groom’s house. That’s where the hustling started. The celebration of the wedding was accompanied by the majesty of the young, songs, dramatized scenes, dances, jokes. Actually, the wedding ended with a rite of “sweet vodka” — the celebration of a young one who saved a maiden honor. The rite was held at the groom’s house after the wedding night. When arranging a feast, in honor of the young sweetened vodka with honey, glorified the bride’s family. A week after the wedding, the young visited the bride’s parents. It was called back calls.
Crimean Tatar wedding
One of the most solemn ceremonies of Crimean people was the wedding, as they attached and continue to attach special importance to the strength of the family and sought to double it with the help of established traditions. The man was believed to be ready to start a family at the age of 25. By this time, he had to acquire a specialty that allowed the future family to be maintained, had his “separate door” in his father’s house, and had some material wealth. The choice initiative belonged to a man, but the last word was for the girl and her parents. Before obtaining consent parents find out whether their ancestors cross to the seventh knee, and in the mountainous forest part of Crimea the choice of bride from one village was allowed, and in the steppe part only from of the other. Then the engagement with the exchange of gifts and finally the niki (crowning), the wedding took place. The wedding is necessarily on Friday played at the bride without the presence of the groom, and on Saturday the bride with a dowry accompanied by relatives is transported to the groom’s house and the wedding continues on the groom’s side. After the wedding night, the bride went out to her husband’s parents and kissed their hands and treated everyone brought with her coffee.
Greek wedding The
first of the Greek wedding rites is matchmaking. Matchmakers are chosen from among relatives or friends. The main issue in matchmaking is dowry (what it will consist of — clothes, utensils or other more serious things like real estate).
Wedding celebrations themselves may take place more than one day and may be repeated after some time again (for example, after a month), and they take place predominantly in the bride’s house.
Characteristic feature of the Greek bride’s robe: the head is decorated with gold threads, and the face is covered with a long pink veil. A very important moment of the wedding rite is considered the entry of the young wife to the house of Each place where the newlywed (yard, threshold, door jamb, foot of stairs, top step of stairs) is marked by special actions of her and other participants of the ceremony. For example, her mother-in-law meets her with bread and a belt that she puts on her doorstep. Young has to step through them: if stepping over with his right foot is a good sign, the left is a bad one. Before entering the house, the bride bowls low three times. She paints honey or oil crosses on a door jamb or on the ceiling, or the procession participants cut them with their daggers.
For a big event on the wedding day everyone is gathered in the house of the young husband.
Wedding in Israel is an exclusively religious rite. The wedding between Jews is held by a rabbi (aka issuing a marriage certificate), between Muslims is mullah, and between Christians is a priest. The State only records (after the ceremony) the issuance of a marriage certificate. Such registration is not obligatory.
For Jews, a necessary and sufficient condition for marriage is to give the bride a ring and say the phrase: “You are dedicated to me by the Law of Moses.” If two witnesses were present, the couple is considered husband and wife. At the same time, it is not without curiosities: in the early 2000s, a high school student at an Israeli school formally performed a marriage rite with his buddy — gave her a ring in the the presence of witnesses; as a result, after the breakdown of the relationship, the couple was forced to divorce.
Jewish men of Kohen (Koganov, Kaganovich, etc.) are forbidden to marry a divorced woman, a widow or a woman who has accepted a giyur. There is also a prohibition on marriage to a woman born of a marriage that is forbidden to her father or to a woman who has forbidden ties outside marriage.
Mixed marriages are not registered in Israel at the moment. Nor are non-religious marriages registered. Members of different religious beliefs or atheists who wish to marry have to travel abroad either in fact (to go abroad) or formally (to a foreign embassie). Israel recognizes marriages performed abroad.
From the State point of view, if a man and a woman live for several years together and maintain a common household, they are considered husband and wife with all the consequent property rights and obligations under the law on unregistered partnerships.
Since 1994, Israel has extended the law on unregistered partnerships to same-sex marriage, and in 2006, the Israeli Supreme Court ordered the government to recognize foreign prisoners gay marriage.
Ceremony usually takes place in whole or at least partly in Sanskrit, the language of Indian holy scriptures. Wedding celebrations can last up to a few days and are very different depending on the region, denomination and caste. On the wedding day, the bride and groom put a ritual wreath around each other’s necks. Most guests attend only this part of the ceremony, and then — after the meal and socializing — are removed. The religious part of the wedding begins a few hours later in the presence of close friends and family. Bramin (a Hindu priest) lights the sacred fire of Agni, which is called upon by the highest witness of the marriage. The priest recites the mantras, then the bride and groom round the sacred fire seven times, holding hands. After the bride puts a gold pendant on the bride’s neck and places a symbolic sign on her forehead, the bride is considered his wife and part of his family and related to blood relatives.
Wedding signs, superstitions and prejudices
In pre-revolutionary times, the custom was common among ordinary people in the form of an invitation to the wedding of a military man very high china (“wedding general”; see, for example, the play of A. N. Chekhov “Wedding”)
Often such signs are tied to a certain time of the year, for example, getting married in May — a lifetime of hanging out.
The most common of them:
- Leap Year is a failed marriage.
- The wedding ring is lost — the spouse will also be lost.
- The marriage concluded after noon is more successful.
- the wedding it is necessary to invite an odd number of guests – this is fortunately.
- The fall of the wedding ring from the hands is unfortunate.
In China, the number 8 is considered lucky. Registration of marriage on the date 08.08.2008 was planned for a long time.
Russian Wedding Rites
Russian Wedding Rites is a system of traditional family rites that accompany marriage. It is an essential element of Russian culture. The Russians had a wedding as a system of rites enshrining marriage developed by about the 15th century.
Usually have several main stages: matchmaking, lookups, handbreaking, howling, bachelorette and stag party, ransom, crowning, walking, and wedding feast. Wedding rites consist of many elements, among them: ceremonial songs, hairstyles, obligatory rites of the bride, friends and other participants.
Russian wedding rites have their peculiarities in different regions. So, in northern Russia the “musical” part consists almost entirely of hairstyles, and in the south – almost entirely of cheerful songs, the role of hairstyle there is more formal. At the same time, always the rite is not an arbitrary set of songs and rites, but a loosely organized system.
Marriage at Slavs At Slavs
marriage was one of the most important social institutions. The marriage was accompanied by numerous rites and was filled with certain motifs and symbols.
Youth of marriageable age were united in groups, which was accompanied by ritual. Dating took place during patronal holidays, weddings, fairs, joint arching works, in chores, on meetings. Diverse were the signs of mutual sympathy: the guy handed an apple with a coin (Serb.), took a flower from her head, a handkerchief from behind the belt, handed a bare spindle in hopes of getting it back with the yarn, requested get drunk from her bucket (bolg., ukr.). The girl sent the guy a bouquet (bolg.), an Easter egg (z.-ukr, Slovak.), a feather on a hat (Slovak.). The guy put a straw ring on the girl’s finger (floor.), put a May tree (floor., Czech., Slovak.) or brought to her house green branches and decorated tree trunks (sloven., choir.), I sat down on my knees to the girl, handed her a money deposit (s.-rus). Courtship in winter took place on joint holiday get-togethers, conning at work, in summer on street revellers. Free relations, up to intimate, between guys and girls were allowed in Russia, Belarus, Polesie, partly in Ukraine, Slovakia, Croatia and Serbia. In most areas, however, it was rare to lose innocence, especially where the bride’s virginity was subjected to ritual checks in the wedding rite. In Russia, especially in the north, Serbia, Montenegro, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Croatia, Slovenia are known fairs or exhibitions of brides, where guys, sometimes with mothers, chose their brides. When choosing the bride, and especially the groom, the parent’s opinion was determining.
Ways of marriage
Forced cloaking of the bride was known in medieval Poland, in Czechs up to XVI century, in Ukrainians up to XVII century. It is common imaginary abduction – by mutual agreement between the boyfriend and the girl against the will of the bride’s parents or with their secret consent (to avoid expenses) or by the self-willing departure of the girl to the groom. Another ancient way of marriage is the purchase of a bride as a mutual exchange between childbirth (veno).
Traces of veno (purchase and sale) are preserved in the wedding rite of all Slavs: in the custom of giving the party of the bride, in the ritual of redemption of the bride from her brother, in the sentences of the matchmaker (“you have goods, we have a merchant”), in songs (guestsof the groom – guests of trade, marriage – sale in captivity), in wedding terminology (ukr. sell to the young — about handing the bride to the groom), including in general-Slavian terms with the semantics of exchange — to take — to give (marriage). The most ordinary marriage is through the agreement of the parties. In this case, its public recognition and consecration by the village community are of particular importance. This role is fulfilled by the wedding rite, the custom of exhibiting young couples for universal viewing on the maslenitsa.
Symbolic marriage is mentioned in folklore texts and rites. The motif of the marriage of Heaven and Earth, known in many traditions, is not typical for Slavs. The mythological motif of the Sun’s marriage with the Month is also loosely expressed. At the same time in South Slavic folklore stories about the wedding of the Sun with the morning star, with the earth girl are well known. The marriage motif is expressed in meteorological representations. A whirlwind or snow viouga is universally explained as a wedding of impure power. According to the Poles during the wind at the beginning of Advent, fruit trees are “married”. Mushroom rain, in the representation of the South Slavs – connects with marrying a bear, a wolf, a fox, a trait, a fork, a gypsy. The Bulgarians of southern Rhodope have a rainbow called a fox wedding. In Polesie, thunderstorm rowan (sparrow) nights are sometimes explained by mermaid weddings. For the “game of the sun” there is an interpretation of the sun to the crown.
Some information about pre – Christian wedding rites and customs can be gleaned from church teachings against paganism:
and this is done by the Gentiles: lead the bride to water, $ when married, drink a bowl in honor of demons, throw rings and belts into the water.
And when someone has a wedding, it will be handled with tambourines, with dooks, and with other bawdy wonders. And it is worse: make a man’s dick, put it in a hole and in bowls and drink from them, and get it licked and kissed it.
According to archaeologist Klein L. S., in Ancient Russia there was a phallic wedding ritual. The phallus was used as a magical symbol: it was to give the newlyweds fecundity, and the earth fertility. The author is based on archeology data, on repeated finds of phalluses carved from wood, discovered in ancient Russian settlements.
In general, apparently, the Old Russian (and apparently Slavic) wedding was accompanied by numerous manifestations of sexuality, the purpose of which was to evoke fecundity and fertility. Novgorod birch certificate is known, in which the matchmaker informs about the possibility of a wedding by a kind of mother phrase: pei twat and szykyl, that is, “let the vagina and the clitoris drink”. This wish is apparently related to the cult of Mother Earth, with which the bride was identified. The same certificate contains the oldest (12th century) mention of such a wedding rite as a “train”. Separate manifestations of sexuality in the Slavic wedding persisted until recently in the form of “srammed” chastusks. The Russian mat itself, apparently, has its roots to an archaic mythological layer and for a long time has been ritually painted.
Traditional for Slavs are considered love plots, by which girls or young men could influence their destiny by attracting the attention of the chosen person. Among the birch certificates Novgorodameets presumably a love plot.
The structure of the rite
Time of formation of the wedding rite is generally considered to be the XII At the same time, some regional traditions in the structure and some details of the rite feel pre-Christian origins, elements of magic are present.
For all the variability of the rite, its overall structure remains the same, including the following main components:
Rites originally symbolized the girl’s transition
from the father to the husband’s family. This entails the transition under the patronage of spirits of the male kind. Such a transition was akin to dying in one’s own and being born in another kind. For example, a deduction is the same as a deed due. On the bachelorette party, going to the bath is the wash of the dead. In the church, the bride is often led under the hands, symbolizing the lack of strength, lifeless. The young one comes out of the church. The groom brings the bride into the house in his arms with the aim of deceiving the house, forcing him to accept the girl as a newborn member of the family, who did not enter the house, and was in the house. When the bride was swallowed, they dressed in a red sundress and said: “You have goods — we have a merchant.”
is usually the relatives of the groom — father, brother and so on, less often — mother, although the matchmaker may not have been a relative. Matchmaking was preceded by a certain agreement between the parents of the bride and groom.
Swat, upon entering the bride’s house, performed some ceremonial acts that defined his role. For example, in Simbirsk province, a matchmaker sits under a matitsa, in Vologda was to be rattled with a furnace damper, and so on.
Often the matchmaker did not speak directly about the purpose of his parish, but would utter some rite text. In the same manner, the bride’s parents responded to him. This was done in order to protect the rite from the actions of unclean force. The text could
have been like: You have florets, and we have gardechek. Is it not possible for us to replant this flower in our garden?
– A young geezer is looking for a cundle. Is there a cundle in your house? – We have a cundle, but it’s still young.
The parents of the bride had for the first time necessarily to refuse, even if happy about the wedding. The matchmaker had to convince them.
After the matchmaking, the parents gave the matchmaker an answer. The consent of the girl was not required (if it was asked, it was a formality), sometimes even matchmaking could take place in the absence of the girl.
“ See the place”
A few days after the matchmaking, the parents of the bride (either native, if the bride is an orphan) came to the house of the groom to watch his household. This part of the wedding was more “utilitarian” than all others, and did not involve special rites.
From the groom demanded guarantees of wealth of the future wife. That’s why her parents examined the farm very carefully. The main requirements for the economy were an abundance of cattle and bread, clothing, utensils.
Often after the inspection of the farm, the parents of the bride refused the groom.
Announcement of the decision on the wedding
If after the examination of the groom’s household the parents of the bride did not refuse him, a public day was appointed the announcement of the wedding decision. In different traditions, this rite was called in different ways (“engagement”, “manoeuvre”, “zavuchyny”, “convolution” — from the words “to hit the hands”, “collusion”, “zapa”, “propoy” — from the words “sing”, “swatanye”, “vaults” and many other names), but in any tradition it was from this day that the wedding proper began, and the girl with the guy became the “bride and groom”. After public publicity, only exceptional circumstances could upset the wedding (such as the bride’s escape).
Typically, the “collusion” was conducted about two weeks after the matchmaking, at the bride’s house. It was usually gathered by relatives and friends of the family, villagers, as the day of “collusion” was determined after the examination of the groom’s household, and a few days before the “collusion” this news spread throughout the village. On “collusion,” a treat was supposed for guests.
The promise to marry was often backed up by tasks and pledges. Refusing from the betrothal was considered a dishonourable matter, which should entail the culprit both heavenly and earthly punishment, in the form of collection of expenses, gifts, fees for dishonor, and sometimes — criminal punishment.
The announcement of the engagement usually took place around the table. The engagement was announced by the girl’s father. After his speech, the young came out to the guests. The first couple were blessed by their parents, then their congratulations were offered by the guests, after which the feast continued.
After the engagement, the parents of the bride and groom agreed on the wedding day, who would be a friendship, etc. The groom made the bride his first gift — often a ring, as a symbol of strong love. The bride, accepting him, gave her consent to become his spouse.
Ecclesiastical opinion in ancient Russia adapted to the folk: consecrated with church blessing the betrothal, which was performed often long before marriage, and recognized its inseparability; but The church saw a decisive moment in the marriage in the crowning, for the strengthening of which in life fought strenuously.
Features in northern traditions In the
north, this rite is called usually “cupporuka”, “zavuchina”. The groom and matchmaker are present at this rite.
In the north, the bride’s confession rite was one of the most dramatic of all the rites of the wedding cycle. Even if the bride was happy to marry, she was supposed to count. In addition, the bride performed a number of ceremonial acts. Okay, she should have dimmed the candle in front of the icons. Sometimes the bride would hide, run away from the house. When she was tried to walk to her father, she burst out. Bridesmaids had to catch her and lead her to her father.
After that, the key action of the whole day was made — the “bewing” of the bride. The father covered the bride’s face with a headscarf. After that, the bride would stop bursting out. The place of “sewing” differs (in different places or outside of the house).
After “bewing” the bride began to read. The groom and matchmaker, without waiting for the end of the hairstyles, left.
Preparation for the wedding day
The next period in some traditions was called a “week” (although it did not necessarily last exactly a week, sometimes up to two weeks). At this time, a dowry was being prepared. In northern traditions, the bride was constantly credited. In southern — every evening the bride’s house came to the bride’s house with friends (it was called “get-togethers”, “vechorks”, and so on), sang and danced.
In “week,” the groom had to come with gifts. In the northern tradition, all actions in the “week” are accompanied by the bride’s hairstyles, including the arrival of the groom.
Bride with the help of girlfriends had to prepare a large number of dowries for the wedding. Mostly in the dowry went things made by the bride’s own hands earlier.
The dowry usually included a bed (perina, pillow, blanket) and gifts to the groom and family: shirts, headscarves, belts, patterned towels.
Rites on the eve of the wedding day
The night before and on the morning of the wedding day, the bride had to perform a number of rites. Their set is not fixed (for example, in some regions the bride had to visit a cemetery), but there are mandatory rites inherent in most regional traditions.
bride’s walking in the bath could take place both on the eve of the wedding day and on the wedding day in the morning. Usually the bride went to the bathhouse not alone, with girlfriends or with parents. Going to the bath was accompanied by special hairstyles and songs, and a number of rites, some of which were given magical importance. So, in the Vologda region with the bride went to a bath hall who collected her sweat in a special bubble, and at the wedding feast it was poured into beer to the groom.
is called the bride and girlfriends meeting before the wedding. It was their last meeting before the wedding, so there was a ritual farewell for the bride to the girlfriends.
On the Bachelorette there was the second key moment of the whole wedding rite (after the “veil”) — the weaving of a maiden braid. The braid was weaved by bridesmaids. The splitting of the braid symbolizes the end of the girl’s former life. In many traditions, braid weaving is accompanied by a “farewell to red beauty”. “Red beauty” — tape or ribbons weave into a girl’s braid.
Bachelorette is accompanied by hairstyles and special songs. Often, the bride’s bill sounds at the same time as the song the girlfriends sing. At the same time there is a contrast of the hairstyle to the song — the score sounds very dramatic, while it accompanies its cheerful song of girlfriends.
The Bachelorette was an important element of these preparations and farewells to the native home and could last from a week to two weeks. At the bride gathered about 15 “shitnitz” and “maidens”, who together sewed until evening, sang farewell songs, due. In the evening they were visited by the groom with a lark brought to them with treats (large and small nuts, gingerbread, candy, raisins), and nibbles, blush, mirror, soap, scallop and other gifts. The bride responded with tea of the groom and the guys accompanying him, and gave the future husband a bear figure “Tikhon”. The more and more refined the figure, the more respect the bride showed her constricted. The symbolism of this gift originates in the tradition, according to which in the wedding ceremony “bear” is often called the groom…”, as this animal in paganism was sacred, and was a symbol of skill. to be a hard-working master of the world, a wise keeper of stocks and an able merchant — that is, possessed the main male traits important for building a strong family. As well as the bear in symbolism of ancient Russian symbols and signs means the ability to be a good teacher, educator of children – in the family it plays not the last role. The sign of the bear was depicted predominantly on male mascots, and such gift of the bride marked her acceptance of the dominant role of the husband in the family, as he from nature is endowed with the necessary properties of the strong patron and protector, and for a man this gift was a reminder of the responsibility that lay on his shoulders. After the wedding, the bear figure was put in the house of the newlyweds as the guardian of a happy marriage, silence and peace in the family.
First day of wedding
The first day of the wedding usually takes place as follows: arrival of the groom, departure to the crown, delivery of the dowry, arrival of the young to the groom’s house, blessing, wedding feast.
However, in some northern traditions, the more archaic, apparently pre-Christian rite scheme is strongly influenced. So, in the Vologda region the scheme of rite is as follows: in the morning of the first day of the bath and the meeting of girlfriends, then – arrival of the groom, “conclusion before tables” (conclusion of the bride to the guests and the groom), treatment of guests. At the same time, the main is “conclusion in front of the tables”, as here are performed a number of magical actions, the bride is dressed most closely. For the night, everyone stays in the bride’s house, and the bride and groom need to spend the night in the same room. This means that the wedding itself has already been done. The next day there is a crowning and feast at the groom.
(or friendship) is one of the main participants of the rite. Although all participants of the rite know it admirably (since it is not a performance, namely a rite), the friend in a certain way directs the rites.
The friend should know the rite perfectly, for example, at what point you need to say wedding sentences, etc. Often the friend is ritually hushed and scolded, and he should be able to adequately answer similar jokes in his address. The groom is almost a passive figure, he does not speak ceremonial words on the wedding day.
Usually the friend is a relative of the groom (brother) or a close friend. His attribute is an embroidered towel (or two towels) strapped over his shoulder.
In some traditions, there may be not one friend, but two or even three. But still one of them dominates the others.
The arrival of the groom
In some traditions on the morning of the wedding day, the friend should visit the bride’s house and check if she is ready for the arrival of the groom. The bride to the arrival of the friend should be already in wedding clothes and sit in the red corner.
groom with a friend, friends and relatives makes up the wedding train. As the train moves towards the bride’s house, its participants (trainees) sang special “train” songs.
groom’s arrival was accompanied by one or more ransoms. In most regional traditions, it is a home entrance buyout. The gate, door, etc. can be bought out. Both the groom himself and the friend can buy back.
The elements of magical action in this part of the rite are particularly important. Sweeping the road is common. This is done in order that under the feet of the young not throw an object on which could be caused damage (hair, stone, etc.). The specific road to be swept differs in different traditions. It can also be the road in front of the bride’s house, on which the bride’s train will take, there can be the floor of the room, which the young will go before leaving to the crown, the road to the groom’s house after the crowning, etc. The friend and other guests carefully ensured that no one would violate the road’s cleanliness (for example, would not run over the road to a wedding train); for such violation the perpetrator could be brutally beaten. Since pagan times, there has been a custom to make an offer to a local sorcerer or snakharka (if they are present), so that they do not harm the wedding train. In doing so, the sorcerer could come to the train on purpose and stand there until he received a sufficient gift.
The essential detail of the rite, preserved in urban conditions, is the immediate redemption of the bride. You can buy a bride from girlfriends, or from parents.
Sometimes the ritual deception of the groom took place. The bride was brought out to him, closed with a handkerchief. The first time could not bring out a real bride, but another woman or even an old woman. In that case, the groom either had to go look for the bride or buy her out again.
sending to church, the parents of the bride graced the young with icon and bread. Before the wedding, the bride was weaved a maiden braid, and after the young were crowned, she was weaved two “baby” braids and carefully covered her hair with a woman’s headdress (coward). Sometimes this happened already at the wedding feast, but at the Old Believers two braids were woven and the coworker was put on either between the betrothal and the wedding, or even before the betrothal.
Arriving at the groom’s house
After the crowning, the groom carries the bride to his house. Here they should be blessed by their parents. There is also a combination of Christian elements with pagan ones here. In many traditions, the bride and groom were planted on a fur coat. The skin of the animal performs the function of the guardian. It is obligatory in the ritual of blessing in one form or another bread. Usually, he is next to the icon during the blessing. In some traditions, bread is laid to bite off both the bride and groom. This bread was also credited with magical action. In some regions it was then fed to the cow so it gave more fruit.
After the wedding, the bride will never count. From that moment begins the joyful and cheerful part of the rite. Next, the young go for gifts to the bride’s house.
The groom then brings the bride to his house. A bountiful treat for guests should already be ready there. The wedding feast begins.
During the feast, majestic songs are sung. In addition to the bride and groom, the parents and friends were majestic.
The feast could have lasted two or three days. On the second day it is mandatory to move everyone to the bride’s house, the feast continues there. If they feast for three days, the third return to the groom again.
At the celebration, one of the central places occupied the image of a bear. According to popular beliefs, the bear protects against uncleanliness, being a pure animal, and evil spirits cannot accept its appearance. Burned in the skin of the bear performed this function, protecting the bride and groom from impure power. Over time, the bear acquired the symbolism of fertility and fertility, in this regard, the image of the bear reminded at the wedding of one of the main goals of marriage — the birth of children, and according to the belief, helped the family strengthen genus.
Special treatment of the bear in Slavs existed during paganism, but persisted after the adoption of Christianity. He remained a symbol of fertility, the patron of marriage – the men as well as in paganism changed into the skin of a bear. In addition, the bride and groom were called “bear” and “bear” at the wedding.
Svetokor-batka says, “
The bear is led to us.”
Welsh-uterus says, “
The Ludoedice is led.”
At the wedding celebration shouted: “Bear in the corner!” , the bride answered: “I love Peter Ivanovich” and kissed the groom. There was also a tradition that the newlyweds could spend the first wedding night on bear skins.
There were signs that reflected the continued bond of bear and marriage. For example, brought a hand bear into the house, and if it roared, it would soon be a wedding in that house. And the girl dreamed bear to groom, wedding or adultery. “To see in the dream of a bear is to expect matchmakers.”
The “laying” and “waking” of the young
evening (or at night) was carried out “laying the young” — a matchmaker or postelnica prepared the marriage bed, which the groom had to redeem. The feast at this time often continued. The next morning (sometimes — after only a few hours), a friend, matchmaker or mother-in-law “woke” the young. Often after “waking” guests were shown signs of “honor” (virginity) of the bride — a shirt or sheet with traces of blood from deflation. Elsewhere, the bride’s virginity was testified by the groom, eating from the middle or with the edge of scrambled eggs, pancake or pie, or answering ritual questions like “Lödlomal or dirt trampled?”. If the bride turned out to be “dishonest”, her parents could be subjected to ridicule, hang a clamp around her neck, smear the gate of the dögtem, and so on.
In modern times, this part of the rite is mostly a thing of the past. What’s more, a survey of several thousand newlyweds found that about 52 percent of them spend a wedding night without sex. Alcohol is the main reason for this.
Second wedding day On
the second day of the wedding, the bride usually performed some ceremonial acts. One of the most common rites is the “search for a fury”.
This rite is that the “rake” (that is, the sheep, the bride) hides somewhere in the house, and the “shepherd” (one of her relatives or all guests) must find her.
It was also common to go “young spirits” for water with two oars on the bark, scattering in the room garbage, money, grain — the young wife had to carefully sweep the floor, which was checked by guests.
What is important is the arrival of the groom to the mother-in-law. This rite has many different names in different regions (“hlibins”, “yaishnya”, etc.). It is that the mother-in-law gave the groom cooked food (pancakes, scrambled eggs, etc.). The plate was covered with a handkerchief. The son-in-law should have bought her out by putting money on the headscarf (or wrapped in it).
In the record D. Chirtsova testifies that guests after the wedding “dress up in funny clothes, pretend to different manners and drive around the village”.
B. Dahl mentions the wedding custom “Kalinka to break”: on the table the young put a leg and a pin of wine, obscured by a bundle of calina with scarlet tape; young wakes and goes sweating, go around the houses of the parents of the bride, parents, travelers, and on return, a friend to crumble a leg and, “plucking” a potash, to spread wine.
In some regions on the second wedding day to the parents of a bride who kept chastity, the groom’s parents sent a bottle of wine to which they tied kalina berries and bread ears. Kalina was called “beauty” of the bride (her chastity). If the bride was “dishonest”, participants of the wedding cleaned wedding decorations in the form of kalyna: dropped berries from the caravay, removed branches from the walls of the house of parents of the bride, and instead of them poked a branch of pine.
In Pinégier, there was a rite of treats in the bride’s house (“guestbah”, “bread”). It took place on the second day or three days after the wedding. On “loaves”, or “guest”, there was a treat where many ate and drank. In the upper and middle reaches of Pinegi, guests were covered with porridge, as well as necessarily treated with pancakes and kissel.
Wedding Songs Wedding Songs
accompany all stages of the wedding, ranging from collusion to the final rites of the second day. Farewell songs, which make out the completion of premarital life; majestic, performed during ritual festivities and serving for the communal consolidation of the new structure of society; coryl songs; songs commenting on the course of the ritual. These functions are realized primarily in poetic texts of songs, whereas their songs are mostly polyfunctional and correlated with a large group of texts of different content. A set of musical and poetic forms, their hierarchy and functional relationship with the episodes of wedding action in each local tradition different Protective
- To deceive the dark ones forces during matchmaking changed the way, went by road.
- defense against unclean force was considered to be the ringing of the tambourines, which accompanied the wedding train all the way to the church.
- To round the head of the unclean and send it far away, young people were circled around a pillar or a tree.
- order for the house to accept the young in a new family – it was necessary to bring the bride to the house on his hands without stepping on the threshold.
- From spoilage and evil spirits were protected with the help of abstinence from saying words and from eating.
- For childhood and wealth showered young with grain or hops, planted on a fur coat weathered up with fur.
- To strengthen the bond of the young with each other mixed wines from the glasses of the young, extended threads from the bride’s house to the groom’s house, tied the hands of the groom and the bride with a handkerchief or rushbone.
Proverbs and sayings
- Wedding and death are sisters.
- It is not scary to marry, it is scary to proceed to that business (it is scary to proceed).
- is frightening to see: stubble – will love.
- God help the idle, and the married hostess will help.
- It’s not nice to live without cute, and with unnice sickening.
- Don’t buy a horse from pop, don’t take a widow’s daughter!
Modern weddings are registered in the registry office or in the Palace of Marriage by civil servants in the hall to solemn music (Mendelssohn March) in the meeting invited guests with the issuance of a certificate. The wedding is preceded by an engagement, when those wishing to marry announce their intention, after which they are considered the bride and groom. Even earlier, the man makes his choice “offer of hand and heart” (asks to marry him). The practice of matchmaking has now been virtually lost. Between the engagement and the wedding, an average of 1 to 3 months takes place. Rings, which are worn during the marriage ceremony, are prepared for the wedding. The bride is usually dressed in a white wedding dress and a veil, the groom in a solemn costume.
For the ceremony it is customary to arrive by pre-hired transport (a white limousine decorated with ribbons and balloons depicting crossed rings) accompanied by the nearest guests. The swirl of cars of the bride and groom, as well as guests, is referred to as the wedding motorcade (Wedding Train). In the car of the bride and groom are also present in addition to the driver a witness (friend, best man) and a witness – assistants from the side of the bride and groom.
After the marriage registration ceremony, the bride and groom are considered newlyweds (newlyweds, young). They accept congratulations, drink champagne and often beat glasses “for happiness”. When leaving the place of the ceremony, the newlyweds throw coins under the feet, and the young wife throws out a bouquet of flowers of the bride.
After the newlyweds arrange a photo shoot for the wedding photo album against the background of the sights of the region and arrive at a pre-ordered cafe or restaurant for a wedding dinner( Wedding feast). During the wedding dinner, the newlyweds sit down at the head of the table and the eating is interrupted by the heads of “Bitter!” , after which the newlyweds have to kiss. A modern Russian wedding is not without a wedding cake.