Reasons for a woman’s lack of family happiness
Reasons why a woman at 35 can’t find her man, quite a few. However, among them the most frequent ones can be distinguished.
Employment in your
youth, you could do your studies and career. It wasn’t before marriage. And now all your peers are married, or divorced. And those who by this time have never had a serious and long relationship, well these are more mediocre personalities. So to choose, in general, few of whom.
Lack of sincere feelings towards a young man
You want to marry. And that desire becomes the idea of a sham. I mean, it’s not about the fact that you met a man with whom you are well together, you love each other and you want to start a family. It’s about you wanting to get married. And for whom? All the same, only to get a treasured stamp in the passport and walk around the register office in a white dress, and then on a wedding trip.
That attitude is felt. A man who encounters similar behavior by a woman realizes that it is, in fact, being used. An indifferent attitude repels men.
Insufficient love for yourself
Perhaps you don’t love yourself enough. For you to be valued by others, you need to solve problems with your own understated self-esteem. Until you accept yourself, you shouldn’t expect to have a good relationship with a man that ends in marriage.
You’re in a long relationship but not married yet
Perhaps you’re already in a long relationship, you’ve even been living together for a few years. But the man “is not ready”, “thinks”, etc. In this case it is worth understanding that to think and look after it is permissible not longer than a year. Some generally understand in a couple of months of meetings.
If more than a year has passed, and the man is still thinking and trying to understand, the question needs to be put ribs. If he says it’s too early, that means he will never be ready. It is not uncommon for a woman living with a man without a stamp on her passport to consider herself a family man. But her partner may take a different position. Such relations should stop, because the man in this case and so well, he doesn’t want to take legal responsibility.
You don’t want to get married
Sometimes women who have already been married understand how much the world is going around a man. The spouse can help the au pair to his wife. It is to help, and it implies that all life still lies on the shoulders of the woman.
Accordingly, after a hard working day, the spouse must work, so to speak, on the second shift. Cook food, wash the apartment, wash the laundry. And a man will help her. Trash will take out, dishes will wash. And it is possible that he will present it as if he did a great favor.
A woman who lives alone spends much less resources on her household. Now increasingly, ladies consciously do not marry just because they do not want to invest in housework to the maximum, getting the minimum.
There are men who, for one reason or another, do not want to marry. It is possible that you are surrounded by men with a similar position. In this case, it is worth changing the circle of communication.
Recommendations to unmarried women
If you’re 35 and a loving man is still not around, don’t despair. First of all, you need to figure out what goes wrong in your situation.
It’s no small thing to stop explaining to anyone why you’re still free. Not having a fact of marriage does not make you damaging. Especially annoying acquaintances need to be stopped at once. After all, the more you make excuses, the more pressure from others you can feel on yourself. Many like to feel their own superiority, and if by other parameters they find themselves losing, marriage can be used by them as the last trump card.
Every woman needs attention from the opposite sex. So you shouldn’t sit at home and wait for the prince to jump to your house. Go on dates, expand the circle of communication (good, there are dating sites). It doesn’t oblige you to anything. If the meeting goes on the wrong track, you can interrupt it at any time.
Often women are willing to give their unsquandered love, but there is no one. If you start taking care of a man, it’s not a fact that he’ll reciprocate. You need to be prepared for this. Therefore, the accumulated reserve of love is better to give yourself (give yourself time, indulge something). There are quite a few girlish joys that you can provide for yourself without waiting for someone to do it.
Find yourself a hobby that can truly captivate you. Life will become full and interesting, and there will simply be no time for suffering. In addition, the probability of meeting your man will increase.
Make a list of your merits. The more detailed the better. Such an outstanding personality is simply doomed to male attention.
If disturbing thoughts about the lack of personal life do not leave in any way, it is worth turning to a psychologist. A specialist will help you change your attitude towards yourself and the world around you.