Determination of school readiness
Preschool children tend to receive in kindergarten and much less frequently in the family. By the age of seven, the child easily goes to meet his peers, believes, reads, can serve himself. The majority of parents in a year – two enroll toddlers in sports sections and preschool schools. In addition to reading and writing, they learn a foreign language. And going to first grade, such children have quite a lot of knowledge.
However, the level of knowledge does not affect the psychoemotional condition of the child. Therefore, if when approaching the first of September, the child increasingly begins to refuse food, harm, protest or close in itself it needs to be supported. In this difficult period for him, the punishment could aggravate the situation. Both parents need to learn to control themselves, not raise their voice and not scold the toddler for unintentional misconduct. To try to become a friend and counsel for the child, to understand that he has personal boundaries, opinion. After all, it is the responsibility of parents to morally prepare the child for school.
Advice to parents
1. Both parents need to learn how to respond correctly to a child’s emotions. Not to compare him to other kids: “your friend doesn’t cry — he’s big,” “he knows how to do it — and you don’t.” The child can start lying to appear better or shut down. To ensure that doesn’t happen, create a warm, trusting atmosphere in the family. Tell a kid about their school years. What you were afraid of, but didn’t really happen. Describe in detail in a positive way what a school is.
2. If you’re the kind of parent who finds school an unpleasant stage in life, then on a subconscious level the child will read that information. At least for a while you need to start thinking positively. Role-playing “school” will help in this. Also with the child you can go to school, walk through its territory, go inside the building and get acquainted with the classroom leader in advance.
3. School implies a lot of responsibility. That for the child it didn’t turn out to be a surprise, it needs to be prepared in advance. A month before school, it’s worth setting a regime. Early awakening and lunch at certain hours should become a daily routine. Often from the first class, children independently rent money for lunches. Accordingly, the child should be able to handle small amounts of money. Here lies the danger that he might start spending money on sodas and chocolates. And only a relationship of trust will help avoid that. So if a child wants to tell you about his problems, take time, however busy, to listen to him. Help with advice, business before the problem worsens. That’s the only way you can control it.
4. Apart from everything for the child to be in a good emotional state, he needs to lash out the tension for the day. A change of activity will help him in this. At the age of 5-7, children show an active interest in dancing, gymnastics, drawing, books. Develop his talents, take classes. Besides, outside school he will be able to develop social skills, and increase self-esteem.