Why teenagers lie
All parents dream of raising their children honest and decent people, but many of them face childish lies. It most often occurs in adolescence. To overcome this unpleasant phenomenon, it is necessary to identify the true cause of the lie.
When a child grows up, he has a desire to become independent and depend less on his parents. This often causes lies. The child tries to create his own space, so keeps his secrets. Lying in this case can be completely unreasonable, for example, the teenager says that was in the library, although actually downloaded the necessary literature from the internet. He knows that you wouldn’t scolder him by finding out the way in which he prepared his homework, but he wants too much to create his personal life. In the case of this kind of lying you shouldn’t worry, you just need to understand that your child is growing up.
The most common cause of lies is fear of punishment. The teenager tells the untruth to cover up some misconduct – for a deuce received at school or a remark in a diary.
Many children lie to establish themselves as a leader among peers. They make up unprecedented stories to earn credibility. But such lies enter the habit too quickly, so children begin to cheat not only friends and classmates, but parents as well.
What to do to make a teenager stop lying
the grounds for lying can be many. The main thing is not to ignore her manifestation, otherwise your child may decide that lying is absolutely normal.
If you notice that your chado is lying — it’s a signal that things aren’t smooth in his world. You should reconsider your own behavior. Parents are an example for their children, so never and under any circumstances do not speak in front of the child.
Perhaps a teenager is lying because he lacks your attention. Establish a trusting relationship with him, more often be interested in his life and share your secrets. He needs to understand that he can trust you completely.
If a child is lying to avoid punishment, perhaps your parenting methods are too strict. Don’t be too harsh for a teenager not to be afraid of you. He must understand that all punishments are not exaggerated but just.
Be sincere and honest with your children, talk to them more and they will always only tell you the truth.